long overdue update

I have been gone for sometime. Busy prepping and working. So I thought I would share with you the email that I sent to our KD...Welcome to my life. All real names have been substituted by pseudonyms for my protection and amusement

Hello KD!

First, I hope that your new year is getting off to a wonderful start! I hear you have a new job...how exciting =). I hope your new boss isn't a total loser...

Anyway, so I think that this will be the first month for trying to get preggers. Gosh, it seems like just yesterday that we first started talking about this and now here we are. So hear are some details and updates.

Chapstick and I have an appointment with an attorney on Thursday (also your first day of work at your new job right?) in the evening to get the Known Donor Contract drafted. This will be the legal document that we use to establish that we will not be seeking child support from you if and when there is a little bambino created and that you will be relinquishing your parental rights so that Chapstick can go through and become the legal guardian of said little one. Once we have it drafted up we will get it sent over to you and you will need to sign it. I have included a copy of an example that I found on the internet so that you can know what to expect. We wont be getting to crazy with it and it will just basically be a written down version of everything we have already talked about. Here is an example of a known donor contract

http://www.therainbowbabies.com/pdf/Sample_Donor_Contract.pdf

Also, would you be available for dinner sometime this week so that we can work out some of the finer details of how this will all actually work? We are available tomorrow, Wednesday between 5:30-8, Thursday around 7:30 and Friday. I just want to make sure we are all on the same page regarding how this will play out over the next couple weeks.

Just so you know where we are in the whole process I have been tracking my ovulation for the last 2 months and will be taking ovulation induction medicine this month to make sure that I ovulate. I will more than likely be ovulating between January 12th and January 18th so we will need you to be "on call" so to speak during this time. I will most likely be your contact for some of, if not most of this stuff in terms of the when and where, because Chapstick doesn't always do well with these kinds of details (I mean, she can plan a hell of a Halloween Party...but this is more my area of expertise). In advance of our dinner I just want to make sure we are on the same page regarding a couple things:

1) Thanks so much for doing this! It means the world to us

2) Since we will more than likely be inseminating multiple times between the 12-18 of this month,and this is blunt, please refrain from masturbation and sex after the 8th...we want to save those little swimmers. After the 18th you get to party all the time...safely of course!

3) At dinner we can talk about pick ups of the "specimen" (sorry...I don't know of a better way to put it). It will most likely entail me coming to your apartment and waiting for you to make a "deposit" in a specimen cup which I will take from you immediately after since the sperm needs to stay warm and as close to body temperature as possible to survive in the cup. it is so important that I be there to take it from you once you are done. And we would do this multiple days in a row...

4) I just have to put this out there: Please let me know if you are having sex with someone...since I will be exposing myself to whatever you have been exposed to...and I have all the risk. Not that I don't trust you...but I just have to be super safe. Since this is basically like I am having unprotected sex with you...but not really...but sorta yes...you get what I am saying?

5) Thanks so much again! I really dont know how else to express our gratitude for all of this...maybe I will get your face tattooed on me...or maybe not...j/k

I hope this all makes sense and I am so sorry if this email comes off as cold or really business like...I just tend to be a little more to the point than a lot of people... and I am sorry of this email is super long. Bleh, ok I am done. If you want to talk more about this call Chapstick on her cell...since mine is dead right now.

And let me know about dinner this week! Our treat!

Ok Thanks!

Lipstick!

Work Work Work

My co-worker shared her blog with me...welcome to my work life...
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Dreading the inevitable

Ok folks, so tonight is my last dose of pro.vera for this cycle and this is the first time I have ever taken pro.vera. Typical me I have done tons and tons of internet research on pro.vera because of the "directions" that my ob/gyn gave me. The directions that she gave me said that my next period could be long and nasty and horrible*. This is what I am envisioning...

*Not in those exact words...but I am paraphrasing.

Planning Parenthood

Today was a bust and successful all at the same time. The lab that we had planned on taking KDs swimmers to let me know that he can only come and "deposit" if he has been told to do so by his doctor. Problem is that young, starving artists typically dont have primary care physicians = BUST...I think that I should call my ob/gyn and see if she can prescribe/order the semen analysis

In better news we were able to set up the STD testing at planned parenthood for next week = SUCCESS. The sooner the better because they said that it can take up to two weeks to get the results back. KD had previously had an std test done but that was a couple of months ago and we want to be safe versus sorry.

Depending on when AF decides to show up we maybe able to try next cycle but definitely in December on clomid...

That's the update! Now off to continue watching gLee with the wifey.

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Long time no post

I havent really had anything to post about recently. We have been in sort of a "holding pattern". But the last couple of days have been busy. We had dinner with our kd...and had a really long and blunt conversation about how things are going to play out in the next couple of months. It was actually really good to get everything out on the table (over Mexican food mind you). I also had a doctors appointment with my new ob/gyn and she was awesome. No awkwardness or anything. I told her that we had a known donor, that my cycles are somewhat irregular and that we want to get preggers asap. She gave me a prescription for Provera to get me to have more regular periods and a prescription for Clomid to start using after I have two periods on Provera. So the plan ( as I have concocted in my mind over the last 5 minutes) is something like this:

Start Provera ASAP
Get our KD in for a semen analysis to make sure everything is good
Continue all my tracking efforts
Possibly try during the next cycle (woohoo)

Lets do the damn thing!

Lipstick

OMG!! Are you for real?!?!?

Ok folks...big big news!

Chapstick had a follow up lunch with our possible known donor....and he said YES!!! Shut up!!!! I got a call from her today and she let me know that they had lunch....and he had gotten tested for all that yucky stuff....stds...and he is clean as a whistle! She told me this and I may have fallen out of my chair....for real...and then my boss came to my office and didnt know what to do with the fact that I was on the phone picking myself up off the floor...

Ok kids! We have a known donor! KD KD KD!!! So know we need to set up dinner to talk some things through with our KD....and I have now begun my ravenous search of the internet for examples of known donor contracts! Any advice or templates would be much appreciated!